Psychologist Christina Spears Brown writes about Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes. She argues that our society is gender obsessed and, because of this, kids learn to believe that gender is a really important and defining characteristic. That makes them (and everyone else in their lives) act in ways that reinforce existing gender stereotypes and limit their capabilities, despite the fact that gender isn’t all that important, at least not innately. The way to fight gender stereotypes is to stop labeling everything and everybody with gender, to introduce kids to a range of toys and experiences no matter their gender, to directly name and counter stereotypes when they occur, and to encourage more co-ed grouping.
The book is written for a western parent audience drawing on research conducted in western society. But we were struck that getting towards greater gender equality requires intervening in early childhood so that the skills children practice are not limited by gendered assumptions. It has also made us ask a new question: is there such a thing as over focusing on gender? The author argues that programs only for girls could reiterate for girls that their gender is deterministic of certain characteristics and reinforce, rather than counter, stereotypes.